3 Girls Trips That Will Make You Forget You Have a Husband and Kids

• Why do it: Because sleep debt is real! Isn’t it time you got the rest you used to take for granted? Also, as the person who’s often prioritizing everyone else’s needs, it’s nice to get reacquainted with yourself. Get up as early or as late as you like. Eat what you want. Go to the art museum you’re afraid your kids would break something in, or the movie your husband finds cheesy. Shop without hearing a single “you’re going in yet another antique store?”

• How to make it easy: You don’t need to take a luxurious, bucket-list worthy vacation. Sometimes all you need is a change of scenery. Why not go somewhere within driving distance? Book a room at a nice hotel downtown. Hole up in a charming upstate B&B. Wouldn’t a seaside bungalow be the perfect place to unwind? Bonus: you can blast your favorite music, complete with the naughty lyrics. Hello, new Lizzo album!

• What to pack: Bath bombs. A book or Kindle. A small candle in a tin. Wine and fancy snacks, like cheese, crackers, olives and chocolates. A face mask. Nice lotion.

• Things that will make it epic: If you’re looking for serious downtime, pick a hotel known for nice beds. Book a massage. Order room service. Read. Sleep. Take a bath without someone banging on the door, whining that they “need” you, even though dad is out there and fully capable of helping.

• How to level it up: Consider taking a class that’s always piqued your interest, but you’re just not making time for. Maybe it’s a pasta making class, a ceramics lesson or learning to ride a motorcycle.

• Why do it: Sorry kids…trips with your best girlfriends are often the most fun. Everyone can take care of themselves, the pressure tends to more low-key and laughing so hard you pee your pants is way more fun than traveling with a two-year-old who might pee their pants just for the heck of it.

• How to make it easy: If there’s a flight involved, pick a place with a lot of direct options. If it’s an annual trip, take turns making the destination more convenient. Depending on where everyone lives, you could also select a place that’s roughly equidistant. All within a few hours’ drive of Dubuque? Go! Sure, it’s not exactly sexy, but with a fun group, just about any destination will be fun.

• Where to stay: This is the perfect opportunity to rent a house or apartment. In a hotel, a group vacation feels disjointed. It’s fun to cook together, lounge in the living room, drink your coffee on the patio. When people want to go to sleep, they may retreat to their room while everyone else can keep hanging out in the main areas.

• How to level it up: Sign up for a group experience ahead of time. Whether it’s wine tasting with a driver (much more enjoyable that way!), a group yoga class or hiring a tarot card reader, it’s nice to have a few things in place so you’re not constantly needing to make decisions in the moment. Nothing worse than constantly having the “I don’t know, what do you want to do?” conversation.

• Fun idea: Ask everyone to bring a favorite product or treat for a gift exchange. It doesn’t have to be fancy. I love learning about the products my friends are currently into—anything from lip balm and books to awesome socks or their favorite locally roasted coffee. That way, you can bring home a little souvenir that reminds you of your favorite people, not necessarily the place you visited.

• Why do it: Whether it’s a trip with your sisters and mom or a multi-generational vacation that includes cousins and aunts, getting everyone together will lend itself to incredible memories you’ll cherish forever.

• How to make it easy: Traveling with family comes with its own set of challenges. There’s history, family dynamics, not to mention everyone knows how to push everyone else’s buttons. That’s why it’s nice to build a trip around an event or activity. Maybe it’s a hiking adventure in the Grand Canyon or a pilgrimage to the Magnolia Market at the Silos in Waco, Texas; a craft-filled trip to Asheville; or a canoe trip a few hours away. Doing an activity together gives you something to bond over.

• Where to stay: Whether you stay in a hotel, camp or rent a house, make sure there’s enough space. Not everyone needs their own room, but the few extra bucks you spend renting a larger space will pay off tenfold in lessened stress and frustration. No one really wants to sleep on a pullout couch. And for Pete’s sake, if you’re sharing a house, rent one with more than a single bathroom. You won’t believe how quickly you’ll revert to your 13-year-old self when your sister hogs the only shower.

• How to level it up: Document the trip. Take lots of photos, and make a photo book to share with the group (boom! You just got your holiday gifts checked off, too!). Are you somewhere that sells those sorta cheesy, kind of expensive touristy photos? I say buy it—imagine how fun that will be to have 20 or 30 years from now.